PGP Mediation Blog by Phyllis G. Pollack
Slow down, you move too fast
You got to make the morning last
Just kicking down the cobble stones
Looking for fun and feelin’ groovy
(The 59th Street Bridge Song (Feelin’ Groovy) Simon and Garfunkel (1966))
These lyrics seem more important than ever. A recent article posted on theconversation.com entitled “In praise of doing nothing” discusses the concept that our accelerated lives have led to even more acceleration. That is, acceleration begets acceleration so that were we mice on a treadmill, we would find ourselves running faster and faster and faster and even faster on the treadmill.
The article notes that in the 1950’s, scholars were worried that with the impending revolution in technology, we would find ourselves with all of this free time. Computers and other electronics etc. would do things that we once did by hand, freeing us up to enjoy life more. Wrong!
Our reality is that technology has sped up our lives. Rather than leaving “it” at the office, the office is our mobile phone and so we are “on call” 24/7/ 365. We are barraged by e mails and telephone calls day and night. Whereas two decades ago, if we receive a letter, it was probably by snail mail or perhaps by fax. We would respond accordingly- by snail mail or fax, taking more time in doing so. Now- with the advent of e mail and texting, we communicate in this mode, attaching lengthy documents as .pdf’s. The pace has accelerated – we all expect almost immediate responses to our emails and texts. A response provided 1-2 days later is simply unacceptable.
The scientists describe this phenomenon as “the force of acceleration”:
We see this on factory floors, where “just-in-time” manufacturing demands maximum efficiency and the ability to nimbly respond to market forces, and in university classrooms, where computer software instructs teachers how to “move students quickly” through the material. Whether it’s in the grocery store or in the airport, procedures are implemented, for better or for worse, with one goal in mind: speed.
Noticeable acceleration began more than two centuries ago, during the Industrial Revolution. But this acceleration has itself … accelerated. Guided by neither logical objectives nor agreed-upon rationale, propelled by its own momentum, and encountering little resistance, acceleration seems to have begotten more acceleration, for the sake of acceleration. (Id. at page 2.)
The antidote is to unplug and do nothing. The article further notes:
Much research – and many spiritual and philosophical systems – suggest that detaching from daily concerns and spending time in simple reflection and contemplation are essential to health, sanity and personal growth.
Similarly, to equate “doing nothing” with nonproductivity betrays a short-sighted understanding of productivity. In fact, psychological research suggests that doing nothing is essential for creativity and innovation, and a person’s seeming inactivity might actually cultivate new insights, inventions or melodies. (Id. at 3.)
Sometimes resolving a dispute requires that we NOT think about it and do nothing. Studies have shown that when we take our mind off something and do something else, we often get those “ah hah” moments where the light bulb goes off in our heads and we suddenly know the answer.
This article confirms that; sometimes doing nothin’ is the best way to solve a problem. It will allow our creative juices to flow just like Isaac Newton who discovered the law of gravity while sitting under an apple tree.
So, there is indeed some truth to the words of Paul Simon- slow down, we ARE movin’ too fast!
… Just something to think about.
Phyllis Pollack with PGP Mediation uses a facilitative, interest-based approach. Her preferred mediation style is facilitative in the belief that the best and most durable resolutions are those achieved by the parties themselves. The parties generally know the business issues and priorities, personalities and obstacles to a successful resolution as well as their own needs better than any mediator or arbitrator. She does not impose her views or make decisions for the parties. Rather, Phyllis assists the parties in creating options that meet the needs and desires of both sides. When appropriate, visual aids are used in preparing discussions and illustrating possible solutions. On the other hand, she is not averse to being proactive and offering a generous dose of reality, particularly when the process may have stalled due to unrealistic expectations of attorney or client, a failure to focus on needs rather than demands, or when one or more parties need to be reminded of the potential consequences of their failure to reach an agreement.